In today’s modern world, where the whole society boasts on women’s right to equality do women really have the right to consent in all aspects of our life?? Women are standing equal to men in physical strength, mental stability and career. There are a lot of things a woman can do that a man cannot. But does this really give a woman the right to consent??
Although women are taking the stand in some aspects to maintain dignity, there are several phases a woman is still not given the right to consent. For example, pregnancy is still a journey that is controlled by a lot of other people.Women need to be given the option to refuse a procedure until it’s extremely important. I very clearly remember few days before my pregnancy when the doctor forcefully injected a medicine due to which my blood sugars had gone high and I was hospitalised for 24 hrs to keep under observation. This was later used as a pretext for performing a c- section on me saying my sugar levels are high and the baby’s brain is not getting enough blood. I had to deliver exactly 20 days before my due date without any contractions felt, no water break, just because my doctor wanted to earn more than what she would have earned otherwise by normal delivery.
Following are a few instances where a woman loses the right to consent to pregnancy.
1} Abortion
In spite of the fact that there are several laws to stop female foeticide, there are several cases of female child abortion in several parts of India. The women are not given the right to consent, oppose or share her opinion. If the husband and the family decide to abort the child, then it is the final decision.
2} Caesarean Section
This is one of the most common procedures forced upon women without consent. Sometimes Caesarean section is performed on the woman even if she is capable of undergoing a normal vaginal delivery. In many sections of the society, doctors are considered a god and no one dare to question them. Many women are not even informed about the procedure that is going to be performed on them, let alone be given a choice to refuse the treatment. If the doctor suggests performing the procedure, then it is the final word. With the fear of losing your child in mind, women go by what doctors have to say and suffer whole life with the side effects of being under the scissors.
3} Episiotomy
Episiotomy is a procedure where a cut is made between the vaginal opening and the anus. Many women although capable of delivering normally are not able to give birth through a natural tear. However in many cases, even if women can undergo natural tear, episiotomy is performed without consent from the woman. She is, in turn, warned of the harsh consequences to her and the unborn baby’s health if she does not yield to the advice of the medical team. This often creates a fear in the mind of the woman and she yields to whatever is being done to her.
4} Medical Intervention in complications
When a woman undergoes certain complications in pregnancy and during childbirth, medical intervention is required. In many sections of India, the woman is not explained about the complications and direct medical intervention is performed. She does not have any idea of the severe complication she is going through neither does she have an idea of the procedures being performed on her.
Pregnancy and childbirth are two very important phases of a woman’s life. It is her body and she has the right to be informed and take decisions accordingly. Every woman should be given an informed consent form before any procedure is performed on her and her unborn baby. Why do women need to lose their right to consent during pregnancy and childbirth?? Women should have the rights to consent before being wheeled into the delivery room.
I loved this post dear…very well penned …
This is an eye opener. Sad, but true. It happens in India that pregnancy is not a personal issue or decision. Every one decides to jump in. This is wrong and should stop!
Yeah so agree with you Lata. But someone needs to stop this. We are pregnant but not handicap nor mentally retarded. So we can take decisions for ourselves..
It is sad isn’t it. Many women don’t even know that they have rights. Most have been brought up with the mind set to oblige. Also I have not known any hospital in my city that discussed a birth plan. All of the circumstances you have mentioned would get covered in that. Somewhere I feel, because we are an over populated country, it’s difficult to keep track of what’s happening and to control it. This is being taken advantage of by not just doctors but other professionals also.
I like how you have written to the point and openly about these issues. Women in general need to speak up and discuss these topics Kore openly.
Thanks a lot Syeda… Having been through a similar situation had filled me with lot of anger towards the medical system and this factory model of delivering kids via c section. Writing about it helped me in voicing my opinions.
I had goosebumps,very well written and I seriously couldn’t agree more!
Oh I’ve heard horrid birth stories too. Births by cesarean have become too common to not be uncomfortable about them. This post is unconventional but so important👍
Wow!! Rakhi you are are born writer… Lively thoughts… Just loved in fact this post is an eye opener!!!
Richa
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Thats such a sweet thing to say.. Thanks alot for all the motivation Richa..
This is so well written, and i am so angry reading your story Rakhi, doctors use fear to make money off innocent people i was lucky to have an amazing doc, no meds no scares no bp no sugar , and a normal delivery. Though i had an episiotomy , but reading this makes me feel so angry, true women have no say in such an imp thing
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Rakhi, you are not just a fantastic writer. You also have a very strong VOICE! The more I read your posts, the more I realise we need a mommy blogger like you in our country to change how things are done.
I was lucky enough to have a stress free natural delivery and a quick recovery but have seen so many of friends struggle. A lot of what you have mentioned here was totally relevant to their case. Hats off to you my friend! 🙂
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Episiotomy is something i was damn scared of but my doctor suggested that my baby head is too big for natural delivery so it better to cut if needed. and i actually i read a lot about pregnancy and delivery and post birth and baby care.
Episitomy is definitely not a big deal as your vagina ll bust open on its own when the baby exits the canal , but its done for post pregnancy fast healing. As the cut is structured compared to the vast shattered vaginal tear. although i had lot of struggle while it healed. i m just thankful it was a structure cut and wonder what would do i have suffered if it was thousand layer skin tear.
Thankfully I had a gem of a doctor. I did have to agree for episiotomy and it was a hell. I still get goosebumps remembering those stiches. Every prick is still active in my mind. For some reason, local anaesthesia never worked well for me.