Ever since a girl is born into a family, the entire family raises her to be a woman she should be post marriage. The way she dresses, her preferences, education, and career ambition are all tuned to how her in-law’s expectations would be after marriage. Some parents do not even realize that they are killing the dreams of the daughter. Nevertheless, post-marriage the situation is no different. Soon after marriage, Indian women are loaded with responsibilities and need to meet the expectations of their in-laws. In this post, I am sharing expectations from Indian women just after marriage and ways to make your life easier around it.

Expectations from Indian women just after marriage

Soon after marriage, the list of expectations begins increasing. She is treated like a robot toy that needs to follow instructions without her own thinking or opinion. Some of the common expectations from Indian women are

• Forget old friends and do not make new ones- Indian traditional men are possessive and tend to control their wives’ independence. Women are expected to stop socializing with their friends and not make any new friends. Going out with friends becomes a complicated issue with the husband and in-laws post marriage.

• Do housework as well as office work-Women despite working out, are expected to do all the housework. A married woman is expected to balance both her office as well as household work with absolutely no help from her husband and in-laws.

• Change Surname-A girl grows up with the identity given by her parents. However, post marriage she is expected to change her father’s surname and take on her husband’s surname. Continuing with the “maiden name” becomes an absolute crime after marriage.

• Seek permission to meet own family-Like for the husband, his family is dear to him in the same way for a girl her family is also dear to her. However, an Indian woman needs to seek permission from her husband or in-laws to meet her own family or go to her home.

• Lose personal time- Before marriage, women have their time all to themselves for leisure as well as pursue personal interests. But post marriage, life takes a 360-degree turn and there is no time for women to breathe. They are expected to dedicate all their time to their husband and in-laws.

Tips for girls getting married

Although easier said than done, Indian women need to take a stand for themselves. Without disrespecting their husbands and in-laws, they need to ensure that they have their lives too. Following are some tips for girls getting married.

• Learn to say no diplomatically-Saying no is not always bad. Sometimes it is necessary to say no to avoid unrealistic expectations that can hamper your happiness and peace of mind. Learn to say no diplomatically when you do not feel the expectations are right.

• Your parents still need you-Although you are married and maybe living separately, do not let your husband or in-laws make you forget your parents. Your parents are going to miss you and they too are your responsibility. Always ensure that you are there for them as physical and moral support.

• Be financially independent-Every woman should be financially independent before getting married. You need not be having a 9 to 5 job, but doing something of your own is very important. Staying financially independent and contributing towards the house as equally as your husband help maintain self-respect.

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Tips for in-laws and husbands to help girls post marriage

Well, it is not always the girl who has to adjust post marriage. Remember she is new to the family, and she needs time to settle in. A girl needs to leave her family and step into a new home filled with strangers. In these hard times, husbands and in-laws should help the girls cope and gradually bring them into a new way of living. Following are some tips for in-laws to help girls post marriage

• Do not expect your daughter-in-law to change-As much as you would like your daughter-in-law to blend into your family, do not expect her to change. Remember she has her own identity and her own ways. Take a more acceptable approach and blend in both your and your daughter-in-law’s ways.

• Do not expect your wife to do both the housework and office work-Like you go to the office, your wife too has a job. Both of you are bound to get tired at the end of the day. Do not expect your wife alone to manage both office work as well as household chores. Step in and share the responsibilities and chores with your wife.

• Treat her family as your family-Like the way you expect your wife or daughter-in-law to treat you as family, it is important that you too treat her family the same. Give them also the same love and acceptance that she expects from your end.

As the saying goes “you don’t just marry a person; you marry his/her family”. Hence, by accepting one another wholeheartedly, unrealistic expectations can be brought down. Everyone can stay together as a happy family. Do share with me what are your thought on expectations from Indian women just after marriage. Or how were your experiences after married life and what expectations you had to fulfil at home?

This post is part of #halfmarathon by Blogchatter. 

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