Anger is an emotional feeling that can happen to anyone who feels frustrated, disappointed, annoyed, or hurt. Improper management of anger can destroy relationships. Mothers are always angry. Have you always wondered why are you an angry mom? With so many responsibilities at home as well as work, it becomes nearly impossible for a mother to balance everything. The end result would be getting angry at the kids. In this post, we are sharing top 8 Anger Management Advice for Mothers
Reasons why you are an angry mom
To manage anger effectively, it is first important to understand why you are getting angry. Listed below are some common reasons why you get angry.
Take things personally-We moms tend to take things personally. We take disobedience of our children as a personal insult. Although it may seem irrational, we get offended at their audacity.
High expectations-We tend to expect more than our kids can do. Our high and unrealistic expectations make us angry and make our children succumb to pressure.
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Sacrifices-A mother has to sacrifice a lot of things in her life and at the same time face the guilt of it. The sacrifices make the mother feel empty and dejected causing a sense of dissatisfaction and anger all the time.
Too much discipline-Although discipline is important, excess of it can result in aggressive behaviour in children and anger in mothers.
Stressed and need a vent out-Often stress is a cause of anger. Although our children are not a cause, they fall victim to it. We, mothers, need a vent out for our anger and unfortunately, we let it out on our children.
Anger Management Tips for Mothers
Although expressing anger is better than holding it in, there is a right way to do it. Expressing yourself clearly and calmly is a better way. Listed below are some anger management tips for mothers
Don’t take things personally-The most important tip to let go of anger is do not to take your children’s behaviour personally. You need to remind yourself that they are children and you cannot achieve the desired results overnight. Children need to be moulded gradually over a course of time.
Lower the expectations-If you are expecting your 2-year-old to behave like a 5-year-old, then you are bound to get angry. Treat your children according to their age and do not impose high expectations on them. Remember each child is different and special in his own way.
Take some “Me” time-Although motherhood calls for a lot of sacrifices, sanity is one thing a mother should not sacrifice. It is important to spend some “Me” time with yourself. Take some time alone. Ask your husband or parents to look after the kids for a while and engage yourself in an activity you love to do. This will help you relax and stay calm.
Do not let things go out of control- It is important to know when to put anger to a full stop. If you are too strict, your kids will get more aggressive and things are bound to get out of control. Understand where to put a full stop so that you can prevent yourself and your kids from getting hurt.
Sleep well-Sleeping well is one of the best tips for anger management. Most of us get angry due to lack of sleep or rest. As mothers, sleeping well is a rare phenomenon. However, it is important that we do not neglect our sleep patterns. Try to catch some good sleep at night as well as short naps during the day to stay calm and relaxed.
While our kids need to understand the consequences of our actions, it is not ideal that we burst out on them. Although it’s normal to get angry, we should be able to manage it. It is essential to analyze the root cause of the anger.
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Relevant article for me. Lack of sleep is definitely a triggering factor.
I must share your post with sister, who is a mom of a three year old. She sometimes loses her patience. Your thoughts and views will be of great help.
This is such a well versed post. Since the pandemic and kids being home all the time, I know many Mums losing control over anger. Your pointers will definitely help.
Taking complete rest and leave the baggage of perfectionist can surely help mothers to cope up on their anger issues. I liked the point where you mentioned that we should have less expectations and should not take things personally. I feel mothers are on verge of being judged often.
I had this issue when in order to keep the house sick and span I use to get annoyed when my kids use to scatter their toys. But finally I accepted that they are kids and that’s what they will do. So better I lower my expectations.
Oh Rakhi this is a reminder for me because I always end up taking things personally. This is an absolute reminder I badly needed
Taking me time and sleeping well are two advices that I should embrace right now. I’m sure every mother reading this post can relate it to her life